Tuesday, February 03, 2009

On-Line Dating

I have been in the on-line dating scene for a while now, but have had no luck yet. The woman that will sweep me out of my chair--figuratively speaking--is yet to be found. She is out there somewhere. I have to keep this hope alive. If other disabled people have found love, there is no reason that I can't. Being a man with a major disability, and in need of much assistance, can be a deal breaker, and some women can't get past the disability and see me for the person I am. But, this is not always the case. It is too easy to blame it on the disability completely. It may be that she just isn't that into me for other reasons, such as no common interests, a lack of chemistry, we live too far apart, or other reasons. I can't take a poor me attitude. I will either be lucky or unlucky in my pursuit, but it will not be because of a lack of effort on my part. I hope to succeed.

The woman I want to meet is someone who would be able to see past the disability and love me for who I am. Someone who would be friend, companion, confidante, and lover all rolled into one. Someone to spend the rest of my life with. Don't get me wrong, I have met women on-line, but they just want to be friends. I have no hard feelings about that. That is their preference. Of coarse, she would be caring, compassionate, and loving enough to not mind helping me out, but I am not looking for a nurse, that would a selfish reason for finding someone.

Before this, I always wanted to find someone, but I didn't put too much effort into it. But, now that I am Forty, I want someone to share my life with. I'm not getting any younger. Sometimes I wonder why I didn't put more effort into it ten years ago, and wonder if I would have been with someone by now, but this is idle speculation, and I resist these thoughts. What is past is past. I have to think of the here and now and keep my hopes alive.


Lance Anderson said...

Hey John

Marisol and I met on Craigslist! Good luck on you quest.



Salie said...

Hey John,

Just wanted to say Good luck with your quest on finding that special someone.

Keep us all updated please.

By the way my name is Salie & it is very nice to meet you.:):)

Love all your blogs

Take care,

hotwheelguy said...

When I met my wife online, she initially wanted to just be friends but I quickly won her over by asking lots of questions and displaying lots of enthusiasm, creativity, and (above all) a great amount of confidence (by reinforcing the idea that everything would be okay once she were with me). Just let your true spirit shine as brightly and as warmly as you know it can (while at the same time shelving your self-doubt) and you will undoubtedly attract your soulmate IMHO!

mimi said...

lovely read..have been reading your blog and it is beautiful..hope you find that special someone soon.want to follow your blog but don't know how?

Alex said...

I am 34, having md, it seems very difficult to find some one who can share life.