Friday, March 18, 2022

Why I'm Non-partisan

I have never belonged to a political party, and I don't want to join one.

Belonging to a political party doesn't fit with me. I don't like being told how I should think, or what I should believe; I prefer to have an open-mind, and do not like dogmatism. Neither party truly speaks to me, and my unconventional views don't always fit with either side.

The parties and how they behave is another reason I don't want to join either one. I'm equally disgusted by both parties.They both put their parties above the country, and seem more interested in scoring political points and in attacking each other than in getting things done. In both parties there are good ideas and there are bad ideas. But, it's gotten to the point that each party automatically dismisses most ideas by the other. There is little attempt at listening to the other side or trying to understand where the other side is coming from. Finding common ground is difficult to find. The extreme elements on both sides are taking over and more moderate and reasonable voices are ignored.

Saturday, January 01, 2022

Happy New Year 2022


Goodbye 2021, and bring on 2022! It's time for a fresh start. There is the chance for new opportunities, new experiences, new directions, and change. It is a time for self-improvement. I will continue to take each of the days as they come and see where the path ahead takes me. 

I hope 2022 marks the end of the pandemic, so we can return to normal. It would be great to see people being kinder, less judgmental, and less divided. I wish everyone peace, love, and joy in the year ahead.

Monday, August 16, 2021

I Believe

Here are ten things I believe. This will be a regular feature on this blog.

I believe...
That all life is interconnected
That we are a part of nature, not separate from it.
That a truly civilized society treats humans and animals humanely
That not all traditions are worth saving
That history should be taught with the warts and all
That unpleasant history should be confronted, not avoided
That there is too little forgiveness in the world
That we don't always learn from the past
That LGBT people are born that way
That it is not important who someone is, but whether they are a good person or not.

Saturday, July 10, 2021

My Birthday

On Friday, July 9, I turned fifty-three. Where have the years gone? I was not expected to still be around at this age, so this is a victory against Duchenne muscular dystrophy. I am thankful to have been given extra life, even with all the challenges, frustrations, and disappointments with having DMD. No life is without some suffering. It's hard to appreciate life without adversity.

Saturday, June 05, 2021

I'm back!

I last posted on my blog four years ago. Back then I felt that I needed a break from blogging for maybe six months to get my writing mojo back. The break went longer than a year, and my motivation to return to blogging evaporated. I decided to stop the blog for good, But, then I realized I still have much to say, and decided to bring back my blog. 

Saturday, July 15, 2017

My Birthday

On July ninth, despite Duchenne muscular dystrophy, I reached forty-nine. I was not expected to make it this far. This birthday, like every one, is a gift--. the gift of more time to enjoy life. Though living with Duchenne muscular dystrophy is not always pleasant, or easy, and can be frustrating, I still feel glad to be alive.

In life there is always some form of suffering, but there is also pleasure and joy. If there was no suffering, it would not make the moments of pleasure and joy so wonderful.

Instead of dwelling on the unpleasant aspects of my life, I choose to focus on the good things in my life.  It is not always easy to do this, but it is better than having a dark cloud always hovering over me. 

Tuesday, April 05, 2016

Ask John

How did you manage to ignore the folks who foretold doom and a short life for you? 

I managed to ignore the folks who foretold doom and a short life for me by living my life as normal as possible. If I went through my life letting the doomsayers get me down, I would not have been able to enjoy life. I would have given up on life if I had accepted that I would not live past my teenage years. Also, since I made it past my teenage years, I consider each birthday as a victory over the doomsayers. In a few months I will be forty-eight and will thumb my nose at those who thought I would be gone a long time ago. 

Friday, June 05, 2015

Ask John

Do you believe in a higher purpose for your specific challenge?

I don't believe that there is a higher purpose for me having Duchenne muscular dystrophy. It is the result of a genetic mutation, that I was unlucky to be born with. I have never been one to see purpose in everything that befalls us. Things happen. If there is any purpose to my challenge, it is created by me. I have used my challenge to give purpose to my life, namely, advocating for and providing encouragement for people with disabilities, and creating awareness of disability.

Monday, March 23, 2015

The Forty-six-Year-Old Virgin

In the comedy, The 40-Year-Old Virgin, a nerdy guy (Steve Carell) has never had sex with a woman. The idea of a guy being a virgin at forty is fodder for jokes. It also perpetuates the belief that a man still being a virgin at forty makes him a loser and not a real man.

As a forty-six-year-old virgin, I take issue with this. Not having had sex with a woman does not make me a loser, nor does it make me less of  a man. The worth of a man should not be based on whether he has had sex or not. Besides, there are more important things in life to aspire to than sex. There is nothing wrong with wanting to experience it, but you have to put things in perspective.

Some disabled guys choose to use the services of prostitutes or escorts. As a younger guy I can't say I wouldn't have gone that route. I had my chances, especially while visiting  Nevada and Amsterdam. To be honest, I had some regrets at those times. But, I'm glad I didn't go that route. I would prefer to have sex with a woman I know, and love.

It is possible that I may remain a virgin for the rest of my life. I am not pleased with this prospect, but that is life. My life is not over because of that. But, when a pleasure is denied, it is human nature to want to experience it.

Friday, March 13, 2015

Chris Webb (1968-2015)

On March 10th, my friend, Chris Webb died at the age of forty-seven. It is a loss to all who knew him, as  well as to the whole Duchenne muscular dystrophy community. I never saw Chris in person. He lived across the country in Stoughton, Massachusetts in a rehab hospital, where he lived for the past twenty-five years. I made his acquaintance through an internet group called DMD Pioneers. We communicated via internet chat. Like me, he was ventilator-dependent. We shared our experiences, and feelings about living with DMD and being vent-dependent. He was a kind, and down-to-earth person. Though he had his struggles, frustrations, and down days, he continued to soldier on. His fighting spirit kept him going, as well as his passion for heavy metal music. He was preparing to break free from the isolation of the rehab hospital and move in to a group home. Though he had some fear, and trepidation about this move, he moved forward towards his freedom. He didn't make it, but he had hope to keep him going. Chris fought the good fight until the end. Farewell, my friend!